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How do I connect w/ a guy after being single for so long?!
I have been single now for almost a year and a half, and have been "out of the game" for a really long time, due to an 8-yr. on/off again really BAD relationship. Also, I have put on some weight due to medication, and guys just don't seem to notice me AT ALL anymore. I am a friendly, attractive, out-going and honest person, and I just don't understand why I don't seem to be attracting men anymore. Also, since I've been single for a while now, I just don't know how to approach guys if I'm interested in them, or talk to them without feeling really weird, and too forward. See, in the past I have Never had to approach guys or (the horror!) ask a guy out before (which I still just can't bring myself to do)!
I know what "they" say...be confident--it's sexy; get involved in stuff you like and you will meet someone w/ similar interests. I've even tried online dating before and I hated it (most guys I encountered were just looking for a booty call, or were Married!). Well, those things just don't seem to be working for me. Also, just to clarify, I'm Definitely NOT desperate for a man (especially after the awful relationship I went through), but I would Love to find someone I could be friends with first, then maybe start dating afterwards. It's just been SO long since I've been asked out on an actual DATE by a man, I feel like something's wrong with me. Do guys even DO that anymore, or do they just facebook/twitter you and expect you to jump into bed with them?!!? I don't know anymore, I'm just so confused and lonely. Please help!