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how can you keep alive a long distance relationship?
well, i think it
s best if i tell the whole story.. so, here it is..
half a year ago i met someone. it was the funniest thing, we were both playing the same online game, he attacked me (it was a strategy game, travian, kinda is a war game, but that isnt important) and we started talking. since then i don
t think there ever was more than one day in which we wouldnt talk.
i discovered we were a lot alike, we wanted the same things from life, having someone to share it with, having a family with that person. it may be my luck, but all my other relationships were some sort of tragedies, and meeting a man who had the same interests was amazing. of course i fell in love with him, didn
t say anything cause i wasnt sure he felt the same, but after a few months of talking both on the internet and on the phone he sent me a message saying he really liked me. this happened about 2 months ago. the only problem we had and still have is that we are not from the same city, well, actually, we`re from opposite sides of the country, and this means 10-12 hrs by train. despite that, we decided it was worth it and considered ourselves to be together if if we never actually met.
there were small fights because of our past, there were little misunderstandings, but we got over them. this convinced me that we really can do this. and by this i mean everything. we
ve talked about everything.. and i do mean everything. even chose the names of our kids. its kinda funny, but we really want to be together forever.
it does get frustrating when you don
t have the person you love next to you. its breaking my heart that i can
t be there when hes sad, that all i have to make him feel better are words.
s not the waiting that kills, its the fact that you know that something is missing and you can`t do anything about it for now. we both have one more year of college left so there is probably no way we could move in together for at least a year and a half.
now getting to my question (sorry for the long story..)
how can one keep the relationship going when it
s gotten to this point? it almost physically hurts not to have your loved one near you. it may take another month or two before well meet, and i would wait 100 years for him, but i
m scared as hell not to ruin this before we get the chance to really be together.
to be clear, im not considering that once we meet things may not go well, we both know we are meant for each other and we just have to get passed this difficulties.
m saying is that talking on the phone is not enough, does not cover everything in a relationship, and at this point, im afraid. you know how you imagine what your perfect someone would be like... well, this one is exactly that person that i imagined. i always said that i would die happy just to know someone like that exists, but now that i
ve actually found him... well, i dont want to ever let him go. and this scares me.
some days we don
t talk much, other days we end up staying the whole night on the phone. but the times when we just sit in silence over the phone are the ones that concern me. its fine by me, i don
t mind just listening to him breathing or to some show hes not really watching on tv, but the fact that an hour might pass without us saying anything usually makes us get the wrong idea that one of us is sad or angry or something like that. and this leads to really being upset.. of course we get over it, but if we were next to each other we
d never ask the other one "why arent you saying anything? is there anything wrong?".
it may sound stupid, but we are usually talking 10 hrs/day and we probably started to feel the pressure to keep talking. don
t really know what to do, i dont want to say that we talk less because he would get the wrong idea, well, not that i
d actually want to limit the time we spend on the phone, it is after all the only way we are communicating lately (except once or twice a week on the internet just to see each other).
gosh, it seems that i keep talking.. ill just stop here, and sorry for the long read.
thank you for your patience in reading this any opinion or advice is really welcomed