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How Can I support my b/f who was sexually abused as a child?
I've been in a 3 yr relationship with a man who was sexually abused as a child by another child. At times, he has displayed inappropriate behavior which has caused real issues within our relationship. However, we remained committed to working through the issues. Recently, after falling into a deep depression, I suggested to him that he find someone to talk to. It took him several months to get help but he finally did. Once he started going to therapy he fell into a deeper depression as he started to learn more about the effects of the abuse on him. We decided to take a break from our relationship so that he could fully concentrate on therapy and dealing with his issues. We're scheduled to have another talk to re-evaluate the status of our relationship so I have a few questions. 1. Is he likely to have more breakdowns/bouts with depression as he starts new chapters in his life? (His counselor told him that some of the reasons for his current break down include the death of a family member, the car accident he had as well as iye recent convos about marriage/ring shopping).
- When we have our conversation how can I express to him my desire to continue our relationship without making him feel as if I'm trying to control him/make decisions for him. (One thing he's been working through in therapy is being more assertive)