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How can I make our marriage work?
My husband & I have been together a little over 3 years. He has been deployed for 18 months of our marriage. Back in April, I kicked him out because we were fighting so much & he refused to go out & get a job & I couldn't afford him, myself, & our daughter on my paycheck. He has been telling me he loves me & wants to be with me but that we are too young. We got married at 19 & had a baby at 20...yes we were very young but very much in love. I know he still loves me & I know I still love him but I recently found out that since I was refusing him sex, he started to sleep with one of my friends. She is like a mini version of me. She acts like me, talks like me, even sort of looks like me. But the one thing she has over me is that she doesn't care if he has a job cuz she gives him money & she is willing to smoke pot with him, which I have refused to do since we have been together. I don't know if there even is a reason to try & save our marriage. he has changed so much in the past 2 months...He hardly visits his daughter & when he does, he smells of pot & i refuse to let him drive her anywhere if he is high...He claims he 'loves' this other girl because she isn't such a high strung bitch but he 'loves' me because I am his wife...he doesn't want to discuss things, just wants to sweep them under the rug. I want this to work out because we do have a child & i do love him & i know he still loves me...I think he is just punishing me for many things that I have made many mistakes in our relationship...& I also did lose a baby & after we found out about that is when he started to be really mean. I just don't know anymore & I need someone else's opinion besides my friends since they are all biased...