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How can I make a guy like me again?

Published on October 24, 2013 by cookiedoogle

We met back in June and immediately liked each other. We had a lot in common, he was really sweet, I got really excited to see him. I definitely held back because I was very worried of ruining it or embarrassing myself. I spent the summer abroad but we stayed back in contact, I saw him for a few weeks after and it was great. We knew we liked each other but again, I did not make any moves. He did ask me out but I pointed out he was moving pretty far away. I thought we would continue seeing and getting to know each other. But he has stopped contacting me, stopped putting in any effort at all really. I drive out a lot to the city he lives in to prove that we could still see each other, but so far I've only seen him once. It was great and he texted me for a day after but then stopped again. I keep trying to meet him again but goes back to old town without telling me, even though it's way closer to me. He doesn't message me first anymore, he doesn't try in the conversations, and it's starting to feel like we have nothing in common anymore. I miss him so much and he meant a lot to me, I want more than anything to have him treat me the way he used to. But I feel like I'm too late. How can I get him interested in me again?


The problem is that he probably took your initial response to his asking you out at getting shot down. He more than likely feels that you aren't interested in dating him seriously, or he feels he's getting mixed signals because you told him he was moving too far away but then attempted to pursue him.

He may still like you but felt like you turned him down and that was it. He didn't want to keep emotionally investing in something that didn't seem like you were going to match him at. So he gave up and moved on.

What you can do is have a talk with him about it. Tell him what you've observed and how you feel. Ask him if he'd consider giving you a second chance at going out. See what he says. If he says no, then you can't do anything to change that. If he says yes, then at least you've cleared the air and things communication will probably pick back up again.