Here is the thing about men, if we want to take things "slow" it's because we're not sure you really meet all of our "criteria". See, women, you have a tendency to following feelings. How you "feel" when you're around a guy, how he makes you feel when he does or says something special, and what sort of feelings you have when your with him rather than when you're not with him. Men are more rational. For example, I have a friend of mine who is the typical good looking American man. He is in his early 30's, he is an ex football player, has a strong career, a strong jaw line, and a powerful presence. He is like captain America. Now, this guy, he is super rational about women. he has broken things off with women because, and I quote, "she's too thin, our son could never play football" or, "she's too big, our kids would never be athletic". He has a vision for his life and his life ambitions and woman has to fit that criteria. See, men are about as faithful as their options, and he knows that if your not his best option, then getting serious with you will likely lead to either a break up or infidelity, because he won't be as committed as you. In some ways, guys are pigs, but in other way's, it's us being honest and fair.........seriously.
So, for a guy, even we will come on strong if we meet someone who fits our "criteria", however, we know we stand about a 1 in 300,000 chance of finding the woman we have spent our adolescence creating in our minds. Hence, we date, we feel things out, we "take things slow". We can find a "9", and not let ourselves fall in love for the smallest of chances we could find a "10" somewhere down the road. For the record, no I do not actually rank women, but I needed an example to help you into the male psyche.
So here is the deal, you've only dated a month before you initiated the "feelings" talk. So, if you start trying to get him back to aggressively, that will only add to the problem. He will perceive you as coming too fast and too strong again. What you need to do, and this sounds horrible, is not only agree to the space but be an advocate for it, and one of these times when he asks you to do something, tell him you already have plans. It will peak his curiosity and cause him to think. If he starts to ask with who, and what you're doing, give vague answers such as, "just going out for dinner a drinks with a couple old friends". You have to understand something, men are just like women in one respect, we both will get away with as much as we can, and with the more resistance that is created, the more we will test the waters.
Don't just agree to the "space", be an advocate for it. Don't jump on board everytime he wants to do something, and subtly remind him that you have another life, other friends, and that you're single. Relationships only have two speeds; committed and non existent. Everything else is an excuse, so while I would usually be adamantly against playing games, you're situation and the guy your seeing sort of call for it. Men sometimes have to be shocked into decisions, and women have to sometimes be holding the wire.
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