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Hold on or Let go?

Published on June 26, 2012 by hese

Hello. Hope all is well. I've been dating a guy for 7 months now(we are still dating). I an honestly say, he's perfect. He always want to see me happy.However, he needs to relocate to another country. We had a conversation and he said that he cannot make future plans with me.And now I'm so confused. We are still communicating and we also planned and booked our vacation together this coming August. After that, I don't know what will happen next.Please I need your advice. Thank you.


He has given you an answer...he cannot make future plans with you. It must feel sad and hurtful. Can you handle going on a vacation together and say "good-bye?" If that is too painful, say good-bye now and give yourself time to heal.

This line is jumping out at me: "We had a conversation and he said that he cannot make future plans with me." Did you ask him to clarify exactly what he means by this? Does this mean he does not want a future with you or that he's not sure? To me, the answer to this question would determine what I would decide if I were in your situation.

Hmmm. This is a tough situation you are in and I really feel for you. Here's my opinion: I am a firm believer that women need to play it safe in love. By this I mean that if he isn't willing to prioritize you in his life, then you can't prioritize him. Never make a priority out of someone who makes you an option, so the saying goes. Tell him before your vacation together exactly how you feel inside ("I feel confused" is a good place to start). See what he says; however, if this man doesn't tell you that he wants to be with you, beg you to move to this other country with him, or plead with you to stay with him in a long-distance relationship until you both can work things work, then you have to let go. You can't chase him to another country, figuratively and literally. My grandparents had the only truly healthy long-term relationship I ever knew and the reason: they made each other their top priority. My grandpa would never have left the country without his woman. Find a man would do this for you and do the same for him.