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Help with the girl who means so much!
So to put it bluntly, I am totally in love with this girl who's one of my best friends. I've known her for a few years now and over that time we've gotten quite close. Earlier this year I shipped out to basic combat training for the Army Reserve and the months before I left we spent allot of time together. Throughtout all of BCT she wrote me more than anyone else except my family. Now I'm in school for my military occupation specialtiy and we still talk often and text back and fourth throughout the week. Now here's where the problem is, she has a boyfriend and they've been together for almost as long as I've known her. What's funny though is even his own friends don't really know why she sticks it out with him becasue he treats her so poorly. Anyway, over Christmas we talked a little about all this and she told me that we would probably be dating if it they weren't still together, but that she didn't want to leave him. As tough as that was to hear it still felt great in a way because until that point I never knew she ever considered me possibly as more than a friend, especially since I never really layed on how I felt about her. So fast forward to now and things are about the same, we still talk and text and they're still together (ugh) and everything, only this memorial day I'll be home for the long weekend, We'll be sure to spend allot of that time togethe and I am seriosuly considering telling her how I am in love with her. I'll be home for good in July and that would probably be better but it's just been so damn hard dealing with the way I feel for so long that I'm emotionally exhausted over the whole thing. I'm just hoping for some advice over what I should do and how I should handle things. I wonder if I layed it all out given the downsloping state of their relationship if she'd give me the shot I want to treat her the way she deserves to be treated. What do you think? Thank you in advance.
PS: I just want to add this is the first time I've ever done anything like this. Truth is i'm a relatively normal, well adjusted, pretty sweet guy. This has never happened to me before, but I am just totally enamoured by this wonderful, beautiful girl that has been there for me through so much. So please give me the benefit of the doubt!