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Is he interested in me or is he just being friendly?

Published on November 20, 2012 by justmel

I haven't had the best of luck when it comes down to love. I must admit that when it comes to reading if a guy is possibly interested, I fail miserably. About a month ago I met this guy through a mutual friend and at first glance he was my type. He is attractive, well groomed, well mannered and he's a guy I can have a conversation about anything with. Well, when we first hung out it was just him, my other female friend and myself. I noticed that he seemed interested in my friend and since my friend was well under the infuence of alcohol, she was all over him. After that night, he sent me a message through facebook asking me to help him out with my friend. In other words he was interested in dating/getting to know my friend. I was bummed but I told him I would help him out. I told my friend that he was inerested in her and she replied saying, "no thanks." She just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years and wasn't looking into getting in a relationship anytime soon. The next time I saw him, it was at a club when me and a couple of friends went to celebrate my birthday. I must admit I drank a little too much and the last thing I remember is me hugging him. The next day my friends all told me that I was hugging him the entire night and that he was the one taking care of me. I texted him to apologize for being so clingy with him and thanking him for taking care of me. He said it was no problem and that he hoped I remembered that I had promised to hang out with him. He started calling me cute little nicknames after that whenever we texted (which wasn't often) 3 days ago me and a couple of friends decided to go to this restaurant with live music and I decided to invite him. He came a little late but he sat down next to me and we talked all night. After leaving that place we decided to go to my friends cousins house and he came right along. We continued to talk and he told me that the night of my birthday I had kissed him on the cheek. I said I was sorry and I was so embarrased. He said not to worry about it. We texted that night and the morning after and he showed me a picture he had taken of us where I was kissing his cheek. Once again I apologized and said I was so embarrased that the next time I saw him I would be looking at the floor the entire time. He put a sad face and said he didn't want anything to change between us and that this would stay between us. Later I found out that one of my friends had asked him what he had betweeen my friend (the one he asked me to help him out with) and myself in which he responded saying "Too bad they know each other." I don't know what he meant by that. My friend the one he tried to get at in the beginning told me that if he told me he was interested in me, to give him a chance. My other friend told me that she thinks he is interested in me but I don't see it that way. I think that he is being friendly with me and I don't think he could like my friend one second and then like me. Even if he did tell me he was interested I think it would be too weird for the simple fact that I know he liked my friend first. 


I guess what I want to know is: is he interested or is he just bring friendly?


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I know what you mean by too weird ("girl code"). But your friends said she didn't like him like that. If she told you it was ok (by "girl code") then I'd say give him a chance. If it works out for you at the end of the day, I'm sure it will bother your friends. But she missed out (on a possible good thing). Also it seems that he is after you and that is what you want. No woman should ever run after a guy. Go with the flow, don't take him seriously until after your first date (if you go) and make sure you don't drink too much. ;)

Best of luck, Fo

Here's the thing...

It would only work if you were interested in playing...a player. But I'm not sure, by the way you write, that you would be interested in that.

Otherwise, you've only known the guy for a month... Have more confidence. Next! :)