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Handling E-Mails from Ex Boyfriend After He Broke Up With Me
My ex-boyfriend of several months sent me a break up e-mail 4 weeks ago suddenly and without explanation. It was totally out of the blue and unexpected. He emailed me one day about our plans for getting together and 24 hours later he sent me the breakup e-mail! The email was 2 paragraphs long, expressing regret but providing no explanation. He just said things like it was nothing I had done and that he'd miss me. I went into "no contact" mode and deleted him and his contact information from my computer, phone, etc. Neither of us contacted the other for 4 weeks. Some of our plans were for my birthday last Saturday (4 weeks after the breakup email). So on my birthday, last Saturday, out of the blue, he sent me a Happy Birthday e-mail. The first paragraph extended warm birthday wishes as if nothing had happened. The second paragraph explained that the reason he broke up with me was because his doctor convinced him that he had a terrible disease and he knew I wouldn't be interested in sick guy. However, his tests have now come back negative, so it looks like he's going to live. He said he was just explaining the reason for the "sudden change." I didn't respond. The next day, yesterday, he sent another e-mail asking how I'm doing and framing a political topic in a flirty manner. He then said he'd reserve his opinion on the subject until he hears "what I have to say (or write) - or both " I haven't responded. I don't know whether I'd want to reconcile or not, but I'd certainly like to know more than he's telling me. Should I respond? If so, how and when? If I am to respond, I'd like to do so before he quits contacting me. What should I do or not do? What should I say or not say? Thanks!