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GF's pathological jealousy
I have been dating, for two years, a wonderful, passionate, beautiful woman. When I say beautiful, I am talking about movie-star beautiful - as well as being blessed with perfect features, she has that internal star power without even trying, and both men and women constantly hit her up. It's sometimes hard for ordinary-looking me to deal with, but I figure it comes with the territory, so I deal as best I can.
The problem is she is, bar none, THE most insecure, jealous person I've ever known. For example, if we're in a supermarket and an attractive woman enters the store 500 yards away and I don't immediately lower my eyes, she accuses me of flirting with the woman, or accuses me of having an affair with her, and she goes into a deep, dark, black hole of negativity and bitchiness. This is but a very, very small example. I am a loyal man - before I met her I was in a monogamous relationship for over 10 years, and I have never been a Playboy.
She has been horribly hurt and betrayed by many men, starting with her father and step father, so I understand where her insecurity is coming from. It's getting harder and harder to deal with, though. "Let me see your phone." "Are you sleeping with someone else? Tell me the truth! YOU'RE A LIAR!"
Why is a woman so lovely so insecure, and what can I do about it? It's the one thing that would prevent me from marrying her, which she very much wants - marriage and children, with me. But I cannot imagine putting up with this - and she won't get help, meaning therapy. "I just asked a question," she'll say, but the question is akin to "Are you still beating your wife?" She has also followed me in her car, to make sure I went where I said I was going - to the library - and not to have a clandestine breakfast with some girl in her mind.