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Getting in the mood feels like a chore.

Published on April 10, 2009 by clarebear

I'm in med school and my boyfriend works a ton. At the end of the day, I know I should want to hook up, but I am uninterested. I'd rather read the newspaper and go to bed early. Is this a problem and what can I do to make myself in the "mood"?


Get some sleep! Or get together on weekend mornings, in the middle of the day, or for a special holiday weekend. Maybe you can try sex in the middle of the night. But don't beat up on yourself because you don't want to have sex at the end of the day.

Be thankful that you both seemed to be in a similar position...otherwise one of you might start to resent the busy one's schedule. Don't be so hard on yourself though. Sex will happen when it happens. In the mean time, do things that allow you to connect with each other but don't take all that energy. I love taking naps with my girl! Even watching the tv or reading together can be rewarding. Just remember that a healthy relationship isn't measure by how much sex you have, but by the level of intimacy between you two.