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Friends with benefits ok or not ok?
I have a very good friend we've know eachother for over 10 yrs, we've both been thru a lot with relationships and confided in eachother about relationship problems. We have recently crossed the line, going from just friends to friends with benefits. I am recently divorced and he is engaged to a woman who he says brings him 'stability', she is like a 'security blanket' - his words. I think she's his 'sugar mama'. We have fun together and occasionally 'hook up'. I love him as a friend and he loves me too, but it's not the romantic head over heels in love. We make eachother laugh and we enjoy eachother's company, always have. We are happy when we're together. I've tried to stay away from him, but I miss him, I miss his friendship. He calls me all the time and wants to see me, I'm not sure what to do. Sometimes he just wants to get dinner, get a drink, hang out, it's not just for sex. I know this is wrong because he's engaged, but he doesn't seem to take the engagement as seriously as he should. The wedding date has not been set. It's not this year, and not next year, he doesn't know when it will be. I don't know how to stop this relationship. Will we ever be able to go back to being best friends?