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Found out husband been liking photos of half naked women

Published on October 4, 2012 by dcajacks

I've just had a baby 3 weeks ago and life was perfect till I looked on my husbands phone to find that he has been following loads of women on an Internet site. These women are all half naked! I'm so heart broken and unsure what to do? Didn't want to break the family up but he has cheated in the past and didn't want to be a door mat. Am I over reacting with my hormones being all over the place? He said he hasn't spoken to any of these women and has since deleted himself off.

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As far as you know, has he cheated since the last incident? If not, let him know that this is his last warning and if he ever does something like that again you two will either go to counseling or get a separation/divorce. If you haven't already, explain to him how you feel when he does things like that and ask him to be more considerate. Even if he was just looking, let him know that you want to be the woman that he can't take his eyes off of. Worst case scenario, this happens again and you will have to let him know that you were not bluffing about the counseling or leaving. Good Luck!

Even though you've got a lot going on with a new baby, try to get clear about the facts. In a situation like this, it can be easy to jump to a lot of conclusions. Make a list of what you know is true (from verifiable and reliable information) and what you still need to know. Then, decide what you will do from the facts.

If you stay with your husband, create some conscious agreements together. These might be that he will be transparent with you about his online (and other) actions. Because he's cheated in the past, it's important for you both to work to rebuild trust.

Best Wishes, Susie and Otto

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