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ex's bestfriend

Published on October 23, 2012 by loverly23

So I've been hooking up with my ex of 3 years bestfriend it started when we were wasted at a party we were dancing and he started feeling on me before I knew it we ended up at his place he told me that he was waiting for that moment for a long time and so it happend, it was very awkward afterwards but then we started talking texting and we soon hooked up again and again I've been to his place again to hook up. Hes even asked me which if them two was bigger which made me feel uncomfortable in a way. I don't know if I should be feeling guilty or not. He did date one of my exbestfriend for almost two years. And ge still hangs out with my ex once in a while, and my ex has his own family now. Should I feel guilty or just keep hooking up with his friend ? I don't even know were me and this guy stand if we're friends with benefits or what, I've had a bit of a crush on this guy for sometime too. I need some advice and some different outlook on the situation.

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Oh Honey, I don't believe in "shoulds". In your heart, you know what is best for you. Are you valuing yourself and what you want and deserve? It doesn't sound like it to me. Are you looking to just hook up with someone? Then, you've got that.
There is no right or wrong here. Only what is in your best and highest good. Get honest with yourself and decided what you want and honor that. It's not about this guy or that guy. It's about YOU <3

Dear its about you! If you really feel comfortable with this guy,go ahead and be with him,not unless you still love your ex.To me there's nothing wrong with the whole thing.

The core issue is this... Are you enjoying yourself, being safe (i.e. using protection during sex) and are you okay with the FWB situation you think you've got going on? It doesn't sound like this really has all that much to do with your ex and more to do with your possible confusion about how this is all proceeding. Be clear with yourself about what you want and make choices accordingly.

Best Wishes, Susie and Otto

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