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Ex boyfriend FwB? Where is his head at?

Published on July 25, 2013 by gabalicious

I dated this guy for about 3 years, from when we were 14-17. He dumped me basically because I wasn't compassionate enough and refused to give me my things back. About a month and a half later I approach him with the idea of FwB. Obviously were young and I wanted safe sex, we hardly use condoms because I'm on the pill and we know we're both....clean.. we've done it twice now, two days in a row, and its Nice, but he keeps kissing, even when I explain kissing is love, sex is sex. We're having sex not making love. And he continues to do it, when I ask him he says, well I like kissing. And I do too. But when we went to lunch we leaned over in my car and kissed my shoulder.. and I don't know why but I leaned away, he still got me and I said, "what was that?" and he answered by saying I don't know. When ever he leaves he insists on hugging and kissing goodbye, not to mention the immediate responses to texts. On a second note I've been on a few dates, I just graduated, he actually dumped me over text the day after graduation... classy. And he's still in high school for another year. He hasn't been dating just working 60+ hours a week, not cause he has to because he "likes it." He's slightly curious about the dates I've been on and as a friend i've been telling him. I still like him as much as it is to be expected and of course I'll always love him, i mean come on my first love, but I know I could never go back after the way he treated me through the breakup and just the simple fact that his mom had a huge hand in our breakup. So what does this all mean? Where is his head?


It sounds like he’s very confused. Though the emotional part of the relationship is over, the physical part continues (that could toss anyone for a tailspin). He could be performing those little affectionate gestures out of habit, or lingering feelings. Unless you want the situation to continue as is, you need to have a deep conversation about your feelings and desires for the relationship, or make a clean break.

Hey this is me on a diff account. This is the same question kinda. I don't know what to do. The thing is our heads are at the same place and our hearts are at the same place. But he refuses to listen to his heart. And I don't know what to do, should I be friends with him? He fell and started talking about his feelings, not me. I told him he's going to fall again and I won't catch him this time and he kept saying No Im done falling. Who are you trying to convince?