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Engaged or not Engaged
I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 3 years. For the past 6 months we have been seriously discussing getting married. While he hates everything about weddings(he was married previously and that did not go well), he told me that he knows that having a ring is important to me and told me to start looking for styles I liked. So, I did. I sent him an email with example pictures of the styles that liked. He responded that someday soon, we would go and pick out your ring together. So, I waited. Then,just a little over two months ago, he told me that for my birthday we were going to pick out my ring. However, when we arrived he showed very little interest in helping me select a ring and just stated "Get what ever you want." When I found a band that I liked, he asked the clerk - "Is that the price?". I felt bad for asking him to spend so much money (This store was slightly higher than the rings I looked at online", so I suggested we keep looking) We left the store and he didn't say anything to me at all on the way back to his house...about a 5 minute ride. Once we arrived at his house, he went outside to start yardwork. I knew that the same ring was available at another jewelers for about 75% of the price. Therefore, I sent him the link. It has now been 2 months and no ring yet. However, his sister congratulated me on the engagement and his mother asked if I made any wedding plans. I simply responded,"No, because he hasn't asked me yet." Part of me wants to keep waiting...hoping that he is going to surprise me, but I am very confused on whether or not we are engaged. Additionally information: We are both in our 30s. Well established in our careers and financially stable. The wedding set I was looking at was ~$ 2K, but he makes well over 200K per year...so money should not be the issue. Suggestions...Do I continue to wait or call him out on it?