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Does anyone else have this problem?

Published on May 4, 2010 by angel28

My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We have sex maybe 2-3 times a month. I am 28 he is 27. It has been like this since the first year in our relationship. This bother me really bad when I hear of couples having a great sexlife and when my girlfriends tell me about how there husbands always want to and can't get enough. Just to let you know, I keep myself up. I am 5 feet tall and 110 lbs. I excise and dress to impress but nothing turns my husband head. I have tried everything. I know for a fact he's not cheating! When we do finally have sex half the time I feel like he is doing it to shut me up. There has been months at a time he hasn't wanted to at all. When I ask him about it he says sex its importiant to him. I have never been able to use sex on him to get what I want or hang it over his head because he doesn't want it. This has always made me feel like less of a women. Being with a man without a sex drive makes you feel unattactive and depressed. Does anyone else have this problem?

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I can relate with this problem. I have been married for 11 years, I am 34. We have 4 kids and I've been dealing with this my whole marriage as well. It didn't seem this way before we were married which is weird to me. I know my husband isn't cheating too. You really need to talk about this with your hubby. It does lead to self doubt, I have recently found my way out of this, but I have also been cheating with some one I truly love and want to be with. Trying to figure out what to do now is really difficult. I love my husband, but I'm not in love with him anymore. I have lost my desire for him and it is really to a bad point. Before you go a few more years and end up cheating too, you should really talk and see where things are going now. If you are unhappy in your marriage now, it's only going to get worse. Good luck.

Do not doubt yourself. His lack of sex drive is an emotional or hormonal problem of his own, which you should discuss with him and try to convince him to get checked out. If he can't work it out, then you need to consider your own needs. Sex is an important part of a relationship and so is feeling wanted and sexy. Just know that it is definitely not you. There would be plenty of men who would think you are very sexy and beg for it. You need to decide how big this problem is in your relationship, talk about it with him so that you show your true feelings, and decide from there.

Good Luck.

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