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Do I tell him I cheated? Do I come clean with my affair?

Published on April 20, 2009 by ace

My husband found me at his house. We were out side talking, but we have been seeing each other for about a year. He told me to stop the phone calls, the texting and going to his house or ???? My husband want to work things out and i do to, so do i tell him everything, because he dont know that it has crossed the friendship line if you know what i mean???


This question feature is new, but already this is the third time someone's asked this. YES. You should tell him. He probably already knows. It sounds like he does. You need to come clean. It's the only way to move on.

Sweetie, if he told you to stop calling, texting, and going to see the guy... HE KNOWS. You might as well confess and get it over with otherwise you're not going to be able to repair your realtionship. Furthermore, if you've been cheating for a year, a year... Ahh.. You need to think long and hard about what you really want because most affairs don't last that long.

honestly i wouldnt tell a guy that i cheated on him,hell no! no matter how much you feel like you are going to explode dont tell him cause he will never trust you again. believe me i ask my boy friend that question on day and he said "its better for him not knowing." i know you feel like you have betrayed his trust but one day you will get over dont even know how he will react and even hit you.

He is your husband! Tell him! I agree with brokenglass911, he knows. If you don't tell him then he may be thinking what else are you not telling him. The fact you carried on an affair for about a year says it all, IMHO, you already had problems. It is not like it was a one time "stuff happens" sort of thing. Tell him and if he is generous enough to forgive you, and you love him, then keep a nickle between your knees when it comes to outside sexual incounters, or open the discussion about becoming swingers....then you would have to be okay for him to openly be with others.

You need to listen to the song "Unfaithful" by Rihanna. I, sadly, have cheated several times, especially on my ex Chris. This song kinda became a theme song for me. Part of it says "and I know the he knows I'm unfaithful and it kills him inside to know that I am happy with some other guy. I can see him dieing..." now I don't know about you but I know with me I knew that Chris knew I was fooling around yet I didn't tell him cuz I didn't want him to leave me. But you need to get it out in the open and then you can start to earn his trust back, or he may leave you. But to ease your guilt and for his sake you need to be honest.