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Do I fight or do I run? Help!
I recently met a very nice guy and we managed to hit it off very quickly. We have a lot in common, we have many of the same interests, we have the same sense of humour etc. We made out a few times and things seemed to be going very well, I was excited about being with a guy who treated me well and whom I felt I could trust, since I have some negative past experiences.
Yesterday though, he confesses that he has a girlfriend at home (we're both originally from the same country but our lives are in the UK now). At first I was quite upset and I resigned to giving him up. But then I thought that it was actually brave of him to tell me that, even though it was a bit late. I can also imagine that he must be in a bit of a tricky situation, I myself have been in LDRs and I know it can be challenging.
I asked him what he wants/expects now and all he could say was that he really enjoys spending time with me, that I made his life happier and that he'd be very sad to lose me. I asked him if he wants to be with this girl at home and he said that he will only be able to make a decision when he goes home in 3 weeks for Christmas and sees her. I understand that, since I don't believe anyone should break up over the phone/internet. But I have no guarantee that he will indeed decide to break up with her at Christmas.
So my dilemma is this: do I stick around and keep spending time with him (which I know we'd both enjoy) and try to tip the scales in my favour (after all, why would he break up with his girlfriend if there's no guarantee I'll be there for him?) or do I let him go so he can sort this out before he contacts me again?
I really really like this guy, I feel like there could be something beautiful between us and I want to fight for him, but not if it's a lost case. I was tempted to tell him to only call me if he breaks up with her over Christmas, but I don't want to be giving out ultimatums so early on and I'm also afraid that if i keep away and reject his attempts to see him he will just forget about me and decide that maybe I'm not worth breaking up for.
What do you guys think? I feel like I need a fresh outlook on this, expecially from someone with more experience with these things. Thank you so much in advance for any reply, all help is appreciated!