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Divorce or not
My husband and I have been married 14 yrs. He retired over a year ago. I work because he will not help me with buying gifts for my children and grandchildrens birthdays and holidays. I buy my own food,necessities,gas, etc. He is 58 I am 44. We have NOTHING in both our names together. The house,land, everything was his before we got married. We even have separate bank accounts. I don't make but,8.75hr and work 25 to 30 hours a week. I can't afford to live on my own. The problem with our marriage is that he will not and has not ever accepted my kids. When they do come over (which is seldom because they feel unwelcome by him) he will get up and leave. I have asked him to please put the house in my name too so that if he was to die on me then I would at least have a place to live. He refuses to put me on the will for ANYTHING. This means his 2 grown kids will recieve everything. Which I don't mind them getting all the land and the other house he owns. I would just like to feel a little secure in knowing I have a place to live. My health is not in the best shape and I know I won't be able to work most likely by the time I'm 60 for sure. I feel like he is treating me very disrespecful because I have been there for him and I have never run around on him. But even that is getting to me. Why be married to someone that doesn't love me enough to make sure that I am secure in my old age? I figure if I'm gonna have to work to support myself then why not do it with someone who will work with me? I am seriously considering getting a divorce.. I just don't have the money to get one. Legal aid will not help you if it is a contested divorce and I know he will fight me. He has the money to pay for a good lawyer because he just last year inheirted 320,000. When I ask him about the house we end up fighting terribly. He says I'm just after HIS MONEY. Why would he feel this way to someone who has always been there for him?