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Dating Fears, Scared and Frustrated
I am a relatively intelligent and attractive 20 y/o college student, however I am super inexperienced when it comes to dating or sex. I have always been so focused on school and family, too much so to consider dating. Also, I don't think my standards are too high, but I know my worth and I never wanted to waste my time with anyone who was anything less than I deserve. So, I have always been and remain single. Honestly, I am at a point where I am lonely, but I refuse to lower my standards in desperation. Problem is, I am in college, and guys are starting to come on to me, hit me up for dates, and such, and at this point I don't know how to approach any of it. I want to be innocently flattered and optimistic for the potential. But the only attention I seem to get is from guys who are emotionally unavailable or just looking for sex, or both. I also get much attention from guys I'm not interested in, which I always courteously decline. Bottom line is I am an honest, trusting, and somewhat naive person, and all I want is someone to love and to share life with for once. I have been the unintentional victim of a hookup, and vowed to never do that again, because I felt taken advantage of. Now, I have gone on a date with another guy, and I felt he was totally trustworthy and very nice, but my friend insists that he is likely only in it to have sex. It is fair warning,considering that previous experience, but this thought leaves me almost paralyzed in fear. Here is a person who showed every sign of being a sweet gentleman, but he most likely is just taking me out to get in my pants??? I know many guys my age are not considering serious relationships, but can they really all be taking girls out and acting sweet just to have sex? How can I trust anyone? How do my peers even end up with boyfriends, guys who actually want to be with them just to be with them???