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Dating after 40
I started dating Brian immediately after my ex and I separated, married for 17 yrs. Brian and I started out as friends with benefits, and quickly went exclusive. We dated for about a year. We broke up because of communication issues - example: We went out to lunch once, and I was buying. He said he wanted mexican, I was celebrating and wanted to go to a different restaurant. I was driving, and I was paying so I went to the restaurant of my choice. Ended up in a big argument... Anyway we broke up, I started another relationship that lasted about 8 months, he dated a woman that lasted about 3 months. We stayed friends. When we were both single again we started up a friends with benefits relationship again. The sex is really really good! I have been doing online dating, and I would talk to him about my dates. He wasn't really dating for a while. Recently, he bought a new house, and is getting primary custody of his kids - he has been divorced for 4 years. I had been helping him pack, and out of the blue he says he wants to try a relationship with me. I am surprised, and say I don't know. After thinking about it, I thought he really should probably date more - wanted him to choose me because he cared about me, and not because he was lonely. Now I am regretting that answer, but he is taking the advice to date - sounds like there are 2 potential women. I am ok with him dating, don't like it but understand. However, I don't think we should continue a sexual relationship if we are seeing other people - this didn't bother him when I was dating, but it does bother me if we have the potential for a relationship. This is the question... Do I continue to date him and have a sexual relationship while he is dating other women? Do I continue to date him and we both date others without having a sexual relationship - this is really hard for both of us. Or, do I just walk away from this relationship entirely and just stay friends. I really like this guy, and would definitely like to have an exclusive relationship. Help!!