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Complicated friend with benefits
4 years ago I met this guy through some mutual friends. Even though he lives 4 hours away from me, I'm always over there because I have a lot of family who live there. We became really close, texted every day, called everyday we were always talking 24/7. Then about 8 months after we met, we became friends with benefits. In fact, I gave him my virginity. Everything was fine but one day I decided to ask him what we were and if we were ever going to be more than we were right now, he responded saying that the distance was an issue. I never asked again. We continued to do what we did except now we were calling each other "boo" he told me he loved me and I did the same. I really fell in love with him though. About 2 years into our friends with benefits things became really awkward and I don't really know why. We talked maybe once a week but when I was over there he acted like nothing was wrong. 4 years later we hardly talk now. Except if I am over there and happen to run into him or he's over here and calls me to hang out. We haven't had sex in over a year and 4 months ago we went out drinking with his brother and cousin and he tried to have sex with me but I told him no because since I've already caught feelings I figured having sex with him would only make things worse. We've started to fight a lot more when before we didn't used to and I've told him I need my space so that I don't embarrass myself or him and he continues to text me and do everything possible to try and keep me in his life even if it is just as 'friends.' I don't know what to do though, I haven't been able to get over him and even though I know he's dated and messed around with other females I haven't been able to do that. I'm just so confused, I would hate to lose the friendship I had with him, throw away 4 years but by the looks of it, it doesn't look we can be friends. Help?