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Can I still get a man even though i have a learning disability?

Published on October 6, 2010 by shantell ross-hayes

hello,my name is shantell.I attend a school for students with disabilities.Now that Leroy and I broke-up last year.I feel very loney and the guys ouside of school don't like me because I go to a special school and i ride the school bus everyday to school.I don't want the guys to treat me different because of my disability.I am a hard working,sweet,smart and beautiful person.I never did any wrong but guys judge me by how i act really slow and never really get the time to know day i really want to find the true love of my life and i want that guy to accept me for who I am.How do I handle this situation? thank-you


this is cruell, but it passes, if youre in school youre young. youll have plenty of time. and guys may be not so matured if they are picking on your disabilities

You know what,I know exactly how you feel. I was born with Spina-Bifida and Hydrocephalus and have always walked with crutches plus I have always had to wear diapers because it causes bladder and bowel control problems. I went to a regular school,but I was put in some special education classes as well because I was also a slow learner. Guys always avoided me like the plague and all the pretty popular girls made fun of me as well all because of something I couldn't help. But let me tell you this. God,makes NO mistakes and He has a reason and a purpose behind everything even when we don't understand. He made you and me just like He made everyone else and He loves us just like He loves everyone else. So don't let ANYONE try to tell you that you are any less of a person just because you have a disability. I PROMISE you that one day you WILL find someone who will love you and accept you for who you are because God WILL see to that. Just be strong,keep doing your best and one day all your dreams WILL come true. God Bless and I will be praying for you.

The most important thing is to stop telling yourself that you have a disability. That line of thinking is directly related to your self perception, and your self perception feeds into the perception of what others think about you.

I used to work with people who were autistic. I used to drive buses and vans for people who had special needs. I quickly learned that they have special needs, but that they have the right to live their lives like everyone else. They work, they go to school, they shop, they go to church, they visit family. They carry on with their lives, and whatever they have to work through, they deal with it. They don't allow anything to stop them from doing what they want to do.

The people who treat you different aren't worthy of your time. Your difference from everyone else is to be embraced. You are a unique individual, capable of love and giving love. You haven't met the man who can appreciate that yet. If you change your inward perception of yourself, then it will be shown to the outside world just how unique and capable you really are.

Shantell, The moment you stop looking at yourself with disabilities and love yourself, all your gifts and who you truly are is the day you will attract the man in your life and all of those wonderful things life has waiting for you. You have to do it first, because if you don't, no one else will either. Find those things that make you feel good about your self and focus on them everyday, lead with your heart and you will attract those who's hearts are open too. I hope and wish you much love and have what it takes and it's there waiting for you to own it!