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Can a kiss be forgiven?
I recently was dumped after my long distance boyfriend couldn't get over the idea that I drunkenly kissed a man on holiday 2 years ago. Despite my infidelity, I felt awful about it and told him the same night within an hour of it happening. Before it happened he told me he could marry me and had basically implied I was 'the one'. He is currently living abroad but is due to come back to London in a few months time for good. We made a lot of progress (or so I thought) with the kissing problem and of course I begged for his forgiveness and did everything in my power to make him feel more at ease - encouraging him to talk to me about his feelings was a big part of this.
I really do love him, and while he tells me now he cannot marry a person who cheated, I can't help but wonder if its possible to make it through since I never swapped any personal information with the person I cheated with, had no feelings towards him or any desire to do it again. I have been loyal to my boyfriend ever since that moment and truly believe we can work through this, particularly if we start spending more time together...time surely can heal wounds (to SOME extent). I take full responsibility for my actions and realise what I did was wrong, but its hard when he cannot at least try to properly forgive me when he has cheated on previous girlfriends and admitted it to me.
I really care about him and do wonder if a kiss can be forgiven over time. I know lots of couples who remained together through much worse forms of cheating - his dad even cheated on his mum and they are still together today. I feel frustrated not at him but at the fact that I can't seem to find a way to soothe him and make him consider me as a long term partner once again. He said he still loves me when he broke up with me but just couldn't continue and if he met someone new he didn't want to hurt me if they were marriage material.