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Boyfriend wants me to be more kinky but I am too shy...

Published on July 16, 2009 by ihaveaquestion1234

Ok, I know this is going to sound kind of crazy but here it goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now and our sex life is pretty good but I know he wants more. He is really into bondage and loves to tie me up, which is fine with me. The problem comes when it is my turn to tie him up. I am a very shy person and have alot of trouble taking charge and being in control, I am more comfortable being told what to do. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions that you could give me to open up a little? Has anyone ever been through this before?

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My GF has some problems with this. My remedy was to go out and get us one of those sex or foreplay games that you can usually find at novelty or adult stores. Because its a game where you take turns with the directions listed of what you are supposed to do, for how long, and where on the person you are doing it to it helps to take away the nervousness of the situation. Sometimes its better think of playing at sex then just having sex...put more emphasis on having fun in the bedroom rather than if what you are doing will please him. If you both have learned to tell each other what you want (at least it sounds like he can make it pretty clear) then you can let each other know if your playtime is really working or if you can do something a little different.

But try a game...it couldn't hurt and they are loads of fun!

How much do you want to do this and how much are you doing it for him? If you don't really want to do this, maybe the solution is not to.

YOU AND YOU BF COULD GO TO THE SEX SHOPS AND SEE WHAT INTEREST YOU AND HIM. MAY BONDAGE IS NOT YOUR THING. THERE PLENTY OF THINGS THAT YOU AND HIM CAN DO TO ENJOY YOUR SELVES ALL IN THE NAME OF BONDAGE. JUST FIND OUT WHAT IT IS AND ENJOY!

I'm inclined to go along with 'Black Iris'. It sounds like you're really not into being the dominant one-at least at the time being. Take turns doing what EACH of you like. If you feel comfortable going along with his dominance role, fine. But then the next time you have an encounter, YOU get to choose what to do and hopefully he'll oblige. Maybe you just want to have soft sweet sex, or whatever. It shouldn't always be what HE wants to do.

I too love to be tied to bed ! ! And then have girl do whatever ! ! I would assume you like getting oral? Think about it .......you can tie him up and MAKE him give you oral till you are satisfied and I guarantee HE WILL LOVE IT ! ! And then make him do it again before you let him get off ! He will love you like never before and you will love your newfound joy ! ! Please have some fun ! ! !

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