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boyfriend dumped me

Published on March 3, 2010 by witetiger2010

i had a year relationship with a man and we both agreed to be sexualy commited to each other. i got sick with cancer and with the treatments left me feeling very tired and not able to think clearly . all of a sudden he started to say he was duing laundry on sat nights, not that i believed that but i was to sick to care all i wanted to do is sleep. after about 3 weeks of this bs he calls me on the phone and tells me he got a girl pregant and is getting married! but he still wants to be friends, my friends dont do me like that i was so mad and am having trouble getting over the hurt and anger . i have alot of revengeful feelings , how can i get past all this any ever trust anyone again ?

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I'm very sorry for your situation. That sounds really hard and I don't think anyone would have an easy time facing that. The only thing you can do is remember that he was a jerk. He cheated on you in your time of need which means that he didn't even really care about you. And he got another girl pregnant which means he's irresponsible. You are better off not having people like that in your life. This other girl is going to be stuck with him in her life until her baby turns 18 and I doubt that's going to go very well for either of them. Just be thankful it wasn't you. Definitely try to surround yourself with good friends that do care about you.

Ugh. What a jerk. On the one hand, I am so sorry you have to deal with this, especially at such an emotionally vulnerable time. No one deserves to be treated like this. But on the other hand (although it is little comfort) I am glad he's gone. What a jerk.

I think you need to give yourself some grace here. Obviously you are going to hurt and feel revengeful. I think you wouldn't be human if you didn't. Just make sure these feelings don't occupy every waking moment. But give yourself some time and space to be mad at him and how he treated you and to mourn a little. I think in order to "get over" something, you have to give yourself the space to have those emotions.

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