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Boyfriend buys ex birthday present but not me?

Published on October 29, 2013 by kellbell170

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months now and it has just recently been my birthday. He hasn't got a job and wasn't with me on my birthday but all I got was a text at night time and thinking I would at least get a love letter (as that's all I said I wanted to him) when I saw him next I didn't even get that and he didn't even aknowldge it was my birthday only 2 days before. Before me he was with a girl while over seas, however, that ended a year before him and I got together but they still are friends, now it has just been her birthday and he went to the effort to send her a 2 page letter and present to her and doesn't even think that I would be upset, what should I think of this?


Sounds like alarms are going off in your head and rightly so. If a guy has moved on from an ex, there's really no reason to be friends with them once you've started a relationship with someone new. That's just a recipe for disaster.

I would go by his actions. Clearly he is still into this other girl as demonstrated by his actions. A guy who is totally into you won't be missing important days like your birthday, and certainly wouldn't skip over you to send something to an ex. Read the signs right in front of you. Be smart enough to recognize it now and cut it off. Don't lead yourself on. Many of us make the mistake of dismissing behavior like this and rationalizing it some how. What are your standards for yourself? My guess is this is not what you'd picture for your ideal relationship. This is a form of emotional cheating and I would just be smart and get out now with your dignity in tact.

Sorry I don't have better news for you. Happy birthday by the way. Good luck.

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