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best friend

Published on December 10, 2012 by megan2967

Hello, i have a question. I have a best friend, he and I have been friends for six years now, he is younger, he lives in nyc, we text almost everyday, we tell each other we love each other, always hang out when i'm in the city, he always pays for everything, wont let me carry anything and is always there for me when i need him. I adore him as my friend and wish to stay friends with him for always, but i feel a slight attraction to him and my friends feel that one day him and I will get together...i feel this is not possible..I wish not to lose him as a friend, so what do I do about any hidden feelings?

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On December 11, 2012, safire1023 said:

Male/female best friendships are common when you're young. They aren't meant to last. They either need to turn into romance, or the relationship will eventually get put on the back burner when either of you meet your lifetime partner. What man is going to accept your strong friendship with another man? I wouldn't accept my husband having a best female friend who he spoke to daily and got together with. Male/female friendships have a different dynamic.

Therefore, you're going to lose the friendship anyway. Even if it's not your choice, when he gets a girlfriend, if she's the average gf, she will not be happy with his intense friendship with you. Don't worry about losing him as a friend by risking a shot at boyfriend/girlfriend status. Like I said, your relationship has to change one way or the other. If you don't tell him how you feel now, you'll regret it when he says he has a new gf, and you've lost your chance. If he says he doesn't feel the same, you can still be friends. It'll be awkward for a while, but then get back to normal. Good luck.

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