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bedroom trouble. .

Published on April 23, 2014 by jlbdalh22

Well I'm 20 years old & my boyfriend of 2 years is 27.. We have lived together for over a year now. We use to have crazy random sex at random places all the time but now we do it once or twice a week and its always the same thing in our bedroom. He tries and tries to make me wet but I just can't get turned on anymore. I love him but I don't know why he can't turn me on. I miss having the crazy random times. What am I suppose to do? I bought new sexy outfits but we just can't really get it spicey anymore :/

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Good sex isn't just a product of the moment, it's a product of relational polarity. Masculine and feminine energies are like the poles of a magnet. The further the distance between those two poles in any given moment, the greater the attraction and the greater the passion. When two people meet, the polarity between the two is at it's maximum, which is why sex is so good, but as we grow and move in and live together, that polarity can be reduced and lost if the two people in the couple do not know how to maintain it. Physical attraction and passion come as a result of the distance between how feminine you are and how masculine he is in any given moment. I would suspect that what has happened is that you have become more energetically masculine, and if so, then there will be no polarity between you two, and thus, less or no sexual attraction. If you are in your mind, thinking about trying to "solve" the problem of not being turned on anymore by buying more lingerie etc., then you are in your masculine - Which means no polarity. You can buy all the sexy outfits that you want, but inspiring him to ravish you again comes from how energetically feminine you are and his attraction to what is INSIDE of you. He wants to FEEL the overpowering feminine longing that's inside of you.

In order to have that fire again and push him into his masculine, you need allow yourself to trust him enough to relinquish your own masculine and fall completely into your feminine and "let go" and surrender. That means surrendering to what is inside of you - your own love, your own sexual desires and your own feelings and your longing to be "taken" by him. It means letting go inside of yourself and truly becoming, FOR REAL, that beast inside of yourself that wants crazy random sex and letting that take over your body, mind and soul. When you put on that sexy outfit, don't put it on to turn him on, put it onto turn YOURSELF on. Get out of your head and into your body. Do everything to turn yourself on and stoke that fire within yourself. Put that outfit on because it makes your body sing. Feel the fabrics moving against your skin. Love the colours. Fill yourself with imaginings of what he will do to you when he sees you in it, totally turned on and wanting him with every cell of your body. Allow yourself to feel sexy and hot and turned on. Surrender and let go and let those feelings flow out of you, like light shining from every pore. Let how your body feels take you over and consume you. Completely surrender to your desires and longing, and to that raging, wild, hungry feeling within you and let it take you over completely. Use your words, your body and that overpowering energy you've built up within you to let him know how much you want him to quench your fire - But only if he's up to the task.

If he feels that coming from WITHIN you, for REAL, then you will already be turned on, and he will not be able to resist grabbing you, wherever you are, and taking you.

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