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Am I wrong for not liking his mother or X for this?
Im in a relationship and his mother is still best buds with his X's who he's made it clear that he doesn't want to be with. When we 1st began talking and his family became aware of it his mother once got angry with him over something petty and called his X's to inform her that he was talking to someone new, even though she didn't she didn't know that for sure, his mother just knew it would boil her water and get her started. She(his X) than began calling and harassing us, even taking it as far as to show up to his home one morning yelling obscene comments from her car as we were leaving on my way to work. At the time his X's still didn't want to let go of the relationship even though he had moved on and may still feel like I took him from her. Even though he pursued me and was single at the time. They were together four years off and on and his from what he says his family doesn't like her much but his mother still calls her to let her know his personal business (finical and romantic) heck his every move for that matter. His mother is a bit of the messy type, she likes gossip and is always pumping people up to start something. I haven't yet started to have any kind of relationship with his mother, I try not to talk to her for the most part (just Hi and bye) and my BF try's to keep us apart because he thinks his mother and sister are just going to pull me in to there web of lies and try to use me to get the dirt on him because he doesn't tell them anything they don't have to know and with good reason. What's the best thing to do in a situation like this? I don't want to have a bad relationship with his mother, but I really dislike his X. His X's also doesn't know that were in a relationship, his mother doesn't either. We lied to keep them from snooping when for the months we were just talking/ dating but have since become involved in a serious relationship and haven't said anything for months because we don't want to deal with any more drama. Its to a point were I just want to tell them and get it over with but he doesn't want to unless his X ask, he says telling her for no reason is kind of like bragging, and he knows how she is and says she just going to go off and say I'm just just boasting that I took him from her, which isn't true at all. Am I wrong for wanting her to know if she's still somewhat around even if it just because his mother keeps her around? Any advice?