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am i overanalyzing?

Published on March 2, 2010 by gingerface

I have been dating a guy that is 5.5 years younger than me for about 2.5 months, we started sleeping with each other 2 weeks ago. Everything has been fantastic, i love his personality, we laugh a lot, talk a lot and i feel that we have a very strong connection. he introduced me to his friends 2 weeks ago and has made plans for an event that is over a month away yet i am still left wondering what is going on. when we are together everything is awesome but he works really long hard hours and it effects our ability to hang out together sometimes. we see each other about 2-3 times a week right now. i guess what bothers me is sometimes it takes him about 3-4 hours to text me back and the other night when he was out with his friends, he wanted me to meet up with them but was taking about 45-60 minutes to text me back, although he did keep me updated on where they were going throughout the night. he makes plans with me and does things like scratches my back without asking. i am just having a hard time figuring out if he is taking things slow or what the hell is going on, i am very impatient.


Yes, you are being very impatient and overanalyzing things. There is nothing unusual about his behavior that I can see. Seeing each other 2-3 times a week is a pretty good amount of time. If he made plans for you to do something with him and his friends that's over a month away, it obviously means he's sees himself as still with you in the future. If he takes a while to text you back, he takes a while. The point is that he answers you. It isn't like it takes him days to respond to your texts or he's giving you the cold shoulder. If he's out with friends it's probably hard for him to check his phone constantly. What is it about his behavior that really bothers you? You think he's taking it slow? I don't see it that way at all. How fast do you want things to progress? Are you expecting him to propose to you after only dating him 2.5 months? You should really think about calming down or you're going to end up driving him away.

LOL yes you should be more patient... i'm 21 and dated a 30 year old twice and they were wonderful people.. i had to break up with them because they were so crazy at the end... i and every girl that pass by me, look at me, she think i'm trying to get with them or they're trying to get with me (witch is right 70% of the time)... but the point is you should trust him, they never trusted me but they loved me so much that they couldnt, and thats bad.....

Yes, you are being impatient. Next time, just call him to get all the information if he isn't texting back, but also give him some space. It's a new relationship and things seem to be going well. Don't over analyze his every move. Enjoy yourself. It doesn't mean anything if he doesn't text you back right away or immediately return your calls. It happens. Be happy that he is inviting you into his live and wants to share his friends with you and enjoy yourself!