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Am I Going To Lose Her?

Published on June 1, 2014 by mikethamilf

I have been talking to this girl for awhile now. We have alot in common and we get along with each other very wrll. We've taken our relationship to the next level but we aren't dating yet but we have acknowledged the fact that we're perfect for each other and a relationship is in the near future for us. Unfortunately, yesterday was her 21st birthday. I went to her party, and it wasn't many people, just a couple close friends and her brother. I got sick and got very stressed out and I had to leave. She walked me to the end of her driveway and I told her why I had to leave. I told her I didn't want to ruin hers or anyone's good time by me being a quiet, stressed out buzzkill. Well, I kinda had a nervous breakdown from all my stress and the fact that I thought I was going to upset her by leaving so early. I made a fool out of myself by seeming out of place and sketchy after I didn't leave for another 15 minutes after I said goodbye to everyone. I finally left when her brother walked up and I left. I kinda just walked away then dropped my phone and looked like an absolute idiot. I tried apologising. I texted her and apologized so many times but never an answer back. I went into her work tonight to buy cigarettes and to talk to her in person. She said she didn't want to talk though and I left with no hug or kiss like always, just a wave goodbye and a "I don't feel like talking tonight, so I'll talk to you later." So now what do I do? I think I screwed up but I care so much about her and don't want to lose her. Do you think she's just upset or that she's mad that I embarrassed myself and her in front of her family? I'm worried she's going to lose feelings for me and never want to talk to me again. How can I fix this?


I think you have to look at why you got so sick and stressed out at her party because that is where the problem started. That is a bigger concern in my mind. You are young and you will have other relationships in the future, but if your stress gets so bad you can't function socially, how will you know it won't happen again? The type of stress reaction you experienced can be cleared with tools like EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).

I would look into counselling. The reason being, it sounds like you may have an anxiety issue. I dealt with this for years, and only after therapy and medication was I able to function normally. I would get stressed out to the point of physical illness as well. You don't have to live with this. IMHO, deal with this issue first and foremost, because once you do, relationships will become easier and more surmountable