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Am I beeing self-fish?

Published on March 4, 2010 by adi_0969

Well...We've been dating for 6 yrs, we have only broken up 1 for a couple of months and decided to get back together. I am currently 21 and he is 22. He plays in 2 different bands, practices with them 5 days out of the week. His dream is to make a living out of it. I don't know if it's just me or should i cut him some slack. That's all he thinks about. He tells me that without me by him side, there's no reason no continue trying. He tells me he wants to marry me but first we both agreed to be stable before jumping into a commitment. Now every time he talks about his band, i seem to get angry. I try but it gets to me, i don't know why. He works from 8am-5pm/mon-fri and after he practices some days from 5pm-8pm and others from 10pm-1am. Perfect example yesterday; he has a show today so he practiced from 5pm to 2am(personally he over exaggerates), he did tx me in-between but it's frustrating because that's all he does. This morning he doesn't call me (usually he does before going into work) and in his 10min break before lunch he doesn't tx nor call, finally i tx him saying (hello...your to busy to tx too?) and he replies (sorry,was running late this morning ...good morning) and that really frustrates me because yet he can reply.He just told me that he is going to Washington ( we are in LA) to record an album with the other band! Yet he just started his new job. Besides he has a record already with the other band. I guess to sum it all up; he has been trying for years with one band and that made it complicated and now with 2 makes things worse. I need a girls point of view and a mans point of view. What shall I do or say to him!


If it's his life dream it's important for you to be supportive of him. However, relationships need attention and nourishment too in order to survive and he shouldn't take you for granted. My boyfriend works on his own thing a lot too but he always makes some time for me. Like he'll take a break from working to have dinner with me. Or he'll spend all day on Saturday with me and work all day Sunday. I know that compromise is important. I don't want him to give up his dream, but at the same time I want to be as important in his life as his work. I think you should just ask him if he can devote more time with you. Try to work out a compromise of his time. If he really loves you, he should want to spend time with you. And if you really loved him and had faith in his abilities you would want him to reach his goals.