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All Tied Up

Published on January 29, 2014 by donnajane

I'm a very independent, strong woman of 24, a teacher, intelligent, very pretty and outgoing. I love my boyfriend but have been putting off marriage. Last Saturday I walked into the house I rent and was confronted by two men in the processs of burglarizing. They left me on the kitchen floor so tightly bound, gagged and hogtied that I could not get myself free. In fact I could barely move. When my boy friend stopped by three hours later I was still tied up, squirming, "mmphing," and an emotional mess. I was shaking, sobbing and terribly embarrassed to be seen in such a helpless condition. As he untied me he kissed me repeatedly and asked me to marry him. I was tempted to say "yes" but reminded him we had to first call the police. Later we kind of danced around the subject and agreed to wait a few weeks before dealing with it. That ordeal has definitely moved me closer to the idea of marriage but and I love him very much but I'm afraid I'll forever associate our life together with being tied up on the floor. How do I work this out? I don't want to lose him. I feel Bound, Gagged and Lost


Hi! I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. I am in the same position in life as you are and I think it is a challenge for women like us, ruled by our heads, to tie ourselves down. But priorities aside, I would go for the commitment. At the end of the day, I would love to give meaning to the things I do and tell someone special about the little triumphs of each day. They say that your overall happiness in life depends a lot on your closest relationship, so try asking yourself if you have a happy life now too. Start from there. But if you question the person himself and the life you think you will have with him, it would be best to set both of yourselves free because the fact that you doubt it means that the love is not strong enough to crossover to the next level of your relationship and the next stages in your life.