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did i scared him?
i have been with this guy for 4 months. but after i said him that i love him he just wanted to be friend with me. he said me that he just like me but he want to be just friend with me. did i scared him ?
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Nope. He never wanted anything more than a friendship to begin with.
What had he said before that? You may not have done anything but bring to the surface where things were at. On the other hand, it is possible that you were both developing towards more in your relationship and your expressions were just further along than he was at that time. Relationships and feeling out where each of you are at can be a tricky thing. Listening carefully to what the other person is saying and not assuming they are saying or indicating what we want them to say is important.
You could have scared him, or maybe he was looking for a way to break up with you. Just be his friend, maybe he will change his mind. Can I give you a little advice? Try not to get too serious with someone you've only known for 4 months. Try to know him for a year then get serious. I made that mistake and moved in with him and ended up an a abusive relationship and I was pregnant. So please be careful.
It sounds like you did, and even though it was unintentional. He may be scared of being in a relationship or unsure of you for some reason. Its a shame he didnt feel honored for you to tell him that. The best answer you will get from him, one day you need to ask him how it made him feel.