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Married and fantasizing about M2M sex

How does a married man find out about sex with another man? I deisre to be a submissive bottom and I have frequent fantasies about giving oral sex and receiving anal sex with another man. I am not sure where I would meet this other man nor sure how to find out if he is discreet. Any suggestions?

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jay_jay
jay_jayMarried
Posted February 23, 2012

Hmmm, you can always get a strap on for your wife...

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Posted February 22, 2012

If you haven't had any experience what so ever with a man yet I'd say wait. Try incorporating some new things into your sex life with your wife if she is game. Like having her finger your ass while performing oral. If that goes smoothly, maybe progress to pegging to see if it is a feeling you actually enjoy before taking the act outside your marriage. And craigslist is a good option too if you are completely serious about this. There are several men (depending on the area) that are in the same situation. Best of luck in living out your fantasies.

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Posted February 21, 2012

I believe if you are looking to change your lifestyle you should not stay married to a woman. Have you talked to her about this? Is she willing to be married to a man on the down low? If you are a gay man and your marriage is a sham, maybe you should consider a divorce so that you can live as a single man. Then it will be easy to meet and see whomever you choose without hurting anyone.

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Posted February 21, 2012

I did not ask for your holier-than-thou opinion. Stick with your hallelujah
dancing in church.

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Posted February 22, 2012

She wasn't giving a "holier-than-thou opinion" she was saying that you need to respect your wife which you obviously don't. FACT. Not opinion.

Why don't you ask your wife where she recommends you find a man to satisfy your homosexual fantasies? I bet her first person to come to her mind will be her divorce attorney.

Good for her.

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Vasha
VashaStarting OverSnoring
Posted February 21, 2012

Craigslist comes to mind. With other men who are married and are very discreet.

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