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Is there hope for my relationship
my boyfriend has not been doing the right thing by me lately and has been distant. Because of this we argued constantly and I never get the answers I want. I did what I thought I should do and I gave him his space and stopped calling. The thing is, he hasn't called me either. I can only imagine that he is upset that during my "silence" period his birhtday came and went but I wanted to stand my ground since he basically ignored valentines day. Is there any hope or am I grasping at straws? It has been 5 days since we had any communication.
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Julesp.1, others have commented on other parts of your question, but I would like to focus on another aspect of it. You say, "I never get the answers I want". Were you looking for particular answers or were you wanting him to answer honestly? Some of Kiki's questions about where you were at in the relationship and what was not going right are important here. My guess is that is has been a lot longer than 5 days since you really communicated and it is only the silence that has occupied the last five days. I would take a look at where the relationship was at, what investments have gone into it and think about why you want to hold on to it (distinct from his reactions, responses and acts) - only then will you be able to know where you want to go and how the things you have eluded to really apply.
Dear julesp.1, your boyfriend's actions, lack of communication and contact is a big sign that he is not into you or your relationship now. It's good you've given him space. You're better off living your life without him. Don't try to figure out what he's thinking. No matter what you imagine, you won't know because you're looking at things from your perspective. You deserve someone who will value and respect you.
What do you mean by 'doing the right thing by me lately'? Cheating? Pulling away? How long have you two been dating? Is this an exclusive, monogomous relationship on both sides? Men know that to ignore V-Day is sending a huge message and if it came and went with no contact from him, he is OK with letting you know he is not feeling the relationship.