Asked by shorty05alyssa on
Why do I only attract married men.
I've been single for a little over a year now, and I have been enjoying my time reconnecting with 'me'. Just before the holidays I decided to try and start dating again. Since then I have noticed an alarming pattern in the men that approach me, they ALL are married or soon to be. I've yet to entertain these mens advancements when I find out they are married. What I am trying to figure out, is this just random occurances or is there something I'm saying, wearing, doing....to attract this type of man?
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There are probably just a lot of scumbags out there. In your profile, write that you only want to be contacted by single men. Supplement your dating pool by checking out meetups.com and doing other things like volunteer work, cooking lessons, bowling league, etc. It's rough out there, and there's a lot of sifting thru sand before you find the treasure. Good luck.
Thank you!
I'm very surprised at how judgmental you are. I am dating via Match the online website, and yes honestly only married men have messaged me (not me seeking them out!). I am not going to ' settle' as the first responder put it, and have an affair with a married man, I have far better morals and respect for myself quiet frankly. I cut off communication with the men when I learn of their marriage, because I even feel that online correspondence is unfair to their wives.
I have a very hard time believing that only married men are trying to persue you. Perhaps you are not understanding the signals. Look it up. Do the research. I think it's easier for YOU to flirt with a married man than to do the work of meeting someone on your own. Maybe you don't know how to meet someone. You might want to start learning at this point before you settle for something less.
Stop looking them in the eye for more than 1 second and stop smiling at them. Every women knows how to pick up men.
You are sending out vibes that you want to flirt with married men but not single guys. Why? Married men are "safe." Stop doing that. It's mean and selfish.