Asked by Rababah on
Am I too obsessed?
I am 17 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for two months. he is also 17. Recently i noticed he changed. on facebook lots of girls comment on his statuses and he responds them when i confronted him about it, he said that he wont wont be active on facebook anymore, but i checked today and i saw that he recently updated his status. i feel like he doesnt want me anymore , like he doesnt comment on my recent photos and it seems like he doesnt care about me. I try to post music he likes so maybe he will comment but he doesnt. Its like im invisible. before he asked me to be his gf he used to compliment me all the time on facebook. what changed ? :(. I feel like im being ignored.
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You sound a bit obsessed to me. Maybe you should decide to be single and work on your self esteem. Instead of doing things to get his attention, try doing what makes YOU happy. Instead of wondering about what he is thinking, worry about what YOU want. If you want to date a guy that makes you feel ignored, go for it. But if you'd rather be with a guy that won't make you wonder, leave that guy alone.
) i have thought about breaking up with him but im scared that of what happens after that. I have to be sure. thanks for your reply :)
What changed? You agreed to be his girlfriend.
He may be doing the same thing he did with you on facebook before you began dating exclusively now with other girls. It could be because he likes the challenge,the ego boost of flirting with a lot of girls at once, and/or he's not mature or ready for a one-on-one relationship. Not just with you, but with anyone.
If he said he would no longer make posts on facebook to you, then he keeps posting...then he is not respecting or appreciating the relationship between the two of you. And you may be reading more into your relationship, then how he sees your relationship. Don't be hard on yourself, just take this as an experience not to go through again with another guy. Do make a decision where you keep your dignity and respect and confidence in tact, and it's okay to expect and trust someone at their word. If they don't keep it, then move on and find someone else who will treat you well.
Do you two see each other in person? Connecting and talking in person is probably the best way to communicate--not via facebook or texts. With facebook and texts, you can't read his face or body language. All you have are black and white words. If facebook is the only way you two stay in touch, then is that really the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that you envision for yourself?
Best Wishes to you and your decision.
Thank you for your honest opinion. I appreciate it. Yes we see each other in person often and when I told him that I'm not comfortable with him using facebook i made sure to tell him face to face so i can see his body language as well. I'm giving him hints that i'm fed up of his attitude and i may break up with him even though it may break my heart. He introduced me to his family and im often at his house eating with his family. it's like he's sending me mixed messages. yesterday we met and i asked him what i meant to him he said that i mean everything to him. I dont know if he meant it .. i'm so lost :/ Sometimes he is so sweet and he cares for me like fix me somthing to eat and stuff like that, and sometimes i feel he doesnt feel the need to be with me..
Thank you for replying :)