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I have a new boyfriend my still inlove with my ex?

Hiya, I spilt with my ex in December as we weren't working out, then I got with someone new in January (quite quick I know) :( but I am still inlove with my ex why? all he has which is better than my current boyfriend is looks and sex and that's it, he treated me like shit. I'm not as attracted to my current boyfriend as I am my ex but I want to be. Oh and not to mention I am sleeping with my ex still as with my current boyfriend it's just not the same it's too quick and there's no passion it but he treats me better than anyone in the whole wide world and he loves me and is sooo loyal, i'm not saying his ugly because his far from it but his just not my ex :( HELP PLEASE XXXX

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MsTaken
Posted February 13, 2012

It takes time get over your ex and sleeping with him not helping any thing only putting false hope in your ex head making you look bad in his eyes aswell if you want stop being treated badly then stop doing things that tell people it's ok treat you badly stand up grow backbone. Tell your new lover what you enjoy in bed he might not have had many partners as you just needs little coaching on what makes you feel good.

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safire1023
safire1023Marriedtrustworthy, loving, fun, sexy
Posted February 12, 2012

Your bf treats you better than anyone in the whole wide world and you're screwing around on him? Apparently you don't have a conscience, and you feel entitled to take what you want from this world, and to hell with anyone else. First of all, you can't get over someone when you're still having sex with them. Have a backbone and cut all ties with the man who treats you like shit. Break up with your bf. He deserves a woman who is faithful to him and crazy about him. Then you can find someone who you actually have chemistry with and satisfies you in bed. The point of dating is to find someone who comes closest to meeting ALL of your major needs.

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Posted February 12, 2012

I think you know where you messed up and that is------> Not giving yourself time to be alone you can't just start something new if you haven't allowed yourself to analyze what the real issue is. I think it would be considerate of you to tell your current dude that your still in love with your ex to spare his feelings. Ohhhhhh Gurl i just saw that you said YOU ARE STILL SLEEPING WITH YOUR EX !!!MESSY!!! (2 snaps) Don't give him your Sugar Gurl HE IS NOT YOUR MAN and if you cared about the other guys feelings you wouldn't disrespect him like that. Not to mention going from being a Girlfriend to a side slut may not be a way to get him to NOT treat you like shit if you wanted to work it out with your EX !!! MAYBE You should JUst DATE !!! BUT VENUS LOVES YOU MUAHZ*

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