Asked by v898blazer on
Is it over?
I have fooled around on my wife multiple times in the past 15 years and recently just came clean and have changed my ways of evil, we have been doing fine for One year now and all of a sudden she has stopped everything including sex and needs her space i.e. no hugs, no kisses, cant sleep in the same bed with her. and she has become very cold, but assures me ther is nothing else going on with anyone. I have no reson to believe she is playing around, I trust and really am in love with her, I have Five children by her and I only pray that it's not too late. it is me that is the liar/ cheater and all I want is to be forgiven for what I have done to her and would really like to get through this nightmare...
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Kudos to you for admitting your infidelity. However, I think perhaps you're misunderstanding your wife's response by saying "we have been doing fine for one year now". It sounds like your wife is finally acting on the full emotion of your betrayal and that emotional response has likely been building over the past year. Recreating a loving relationship after such extensive cheating is an uphill battle and is rarely successful. However, I firmly believe that there is always hope! This is the time to run, don't walk, to a therapist or coach and get some guidance on how to you work toward healing. This may be the toughest thing you've ever done, but if it is really true that you love her as you say you do, you will be willing to do what it takes. Sending you courage!
It may or may not be over. It sounds like some counseling or something of the sort would be good for the two of you. If you want to make it, it will take patience and work on your part to regain her trust. Keep trying to communicate with her to know what the next step is.