So there’s this guy who I had a crush on for most of last semester and I finally convinced myself that I had been “friend-zoned” over the Christmas break. Now this guy, let’s call him Tom, has become one of my best friends in college and through me has also become good friends with my roommates, so he comes over to our dorm a lot. Now however enters the problem. One of my roommates recently broke up with her boyfriend and is in a bad place. Therefore since this roommate has also been a close friend since middle school I obviously want to do everything I can to cheer her up. So of course she asks for permission to casually date Tom, especially since Valentine’s Day is coming up and she doesn’t want to be alone. I, being the stupidly selfless person I am, said I was fine with that. Well now they do in fact have plans for Valentine’s Day and I’ve found myself totally not over him. Now I feel sick with jealousy and moping more than usual about the fact that while I’ve never been on a date my friend seems to always have a boyfriend and will probably have a new one in Tom very soon. I have no idea what to do now because I still want my friend to be happy and it isn’t like I believe she necessarily stole Tom from me or anything, but I also hate feeling this way. Someone please help!
Sincerely,
Confused