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Give Advice: Why Does He Talk About Kissing Other Girls?

I like this friend of mine and he likes me back, I've already posted another post about our situation but this is a new one. We've been on a casual date together already and everything went perfect (:

However the day before new years eve I had a dream that he kissed another girl infront of me (she provoked him in my dream), he saw me and continued kissing, I cried and ran away...

On new years eve I had a strange feeling that my dream might come true...I told my bestfriend how I was feeling about him going out on new years eve and about my dream ( a guy who's also bestfriends with the guy I like). It's not that I would be jealous, but I was more concerned of him doing something that he would later regret, and that could hurt me...The next day (1jan2012) I asked him how it went and he said it was fun, he was drunk and picked up a girl and got kicked out of the bar (which I didn't quite understand). My bestfriend (the guy) asked him what happend, and he told me that the guy I liked said this

Him: well you know, i made out and stuff but nothing special,
i dont know it didnt feel right, i think im just gonna find a nice girl and stick with her for a while xD or not, i dunno

Him: bro, its fine, she was drunk too, i dont remember half of it, she didnt even know my name and it was for like 3 seconds

 

I'm not sure if he just said that to show off cause he was talking to a guy...But I'm assuming he's talking about me being the "Nice Girl", he mentions the "Nice Girl" a lot to his other friends, saying that he needs a "Nice Girl" someone fun, a good friend, and well I'm assuming he's talking about me since he told me he really likes me...But I'm just wondering if he really kissed the girl, or if it's a lie

 

 - Thank you for taking the time to read and answer, it really helps! :D 

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Posted January 6, 2012

Let's not overlook a few facts:

1) You called it a "casual date" right? There's no crying and jealousy in casual dating! Until you both agree you're exclusive and serious, it's just casual.

2) It’s funny how you’re feeling jealous about your casual dating friend, yet does he complain about your best friend being a dude? If he trusts you with a male best friend, cut him some slack, especially since you’re only casually dating

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Pamita
PamitaSingle
Posted January 7, 2012

Thanks for the answer :) But we both admitted that we liked each other a lot and stuff like that...I don't know how he feels about me having a best friend as a guy, but that doesn't matter much, because it's also his best friend

Thank you! :D I'll try to just go with the flow then :D

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J Medrano
J MedranoYourTango ExpertsMarriedhopefully and hopelessly married
Posted January 6, 2012

Either way, a kiss is just a kiss.
Solution: Kiss him better than any other.

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Pamita
PamitaSingle
Posted January 7, 2012

Thanks for answering (: I'll try when I have the guts too!
Thanks again!

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