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should i still have hope or move on

i met a man, fell in love but because of previous infidelity did a v. bad thing and hacked his fb account.  all was in order apart from one email he wrote 3 weeks into our relationship telling a girl he loved her, (she lived in Australia!!) i got very drunk and made some obsence boiler bunny remarks on is fb account....bad......anyway he phoned and phoned and i wouldn't pick up and it all ended there.....as time has gone on he texts i text, its been pretty nasty with tit for tat emails back and forth......ive dated but don't get even a touch of what i felt for him, we went 3 weeks without any contact and recently started up agian........each time he abuses me saying i was a complete bitch and its my fault he is so nasty towards me after everything ive said and done (emails were nasty from me) but again so were his.........i am still very much in love with him but too much pride to say so and just text hoping we could be friends crap, but he gets v. nasty and the latest ive just said i ll leave it with him..................can he hate me that much and do you think there maybe a chance in the future, we have now split for nearly 3 months............i still think of him nearly every minute of the day and can't stand the thought of him never wanting me again.

 

should i just move on or do you think with his hatefulness that he is still in love with me ? one of his recent texts said i thought we may get back together but i remembered what u said and did..........geez wish i hadn't been an idiot!! 

 

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Johanna Lyman
Johanna LymanMarriedSpiritual Love Coach
Posted September 14, 2011

This relationship is doomed because its foundation is lies and mistrust. Because you stated, "b/c of a previous infidelity"... that suggests to me that you would benefit from coaching or therapy to heal your own issues of mistrust before getting into any relationship. If you don't all your relationships will show you the ways you need to heal. Check out some of my blogs for more detailed info on what I'm talking about- www.romancerecovery.com

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Posted September 13, 2011

I don't know! It may have got off to a bad start. What do you think?

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