Asked by ayin2012 on
Why don't I want to be intimate?
I have little or no desire for sex or intimacy with my wife anymore.This has been for over a few years now.I cringe when she touches me.The sex has become boring to me,when it happens,maybe once a month sometimes a little longer.She wants it all the time,but I dont initiate it then she gets mad.
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no matter how much you love a person
if the sex stops
so does the relationship
get out, get some space,
perhaps it comes back
perhaps you meet someone where it is never an issue.
Are you resentful toward her about something? You might not even know it... resentment builds up over a period of time and have be very latent/insidious. Could have resulted from a bunch of little things over time, or something bigger that you're having a hard time letting go of. Another possibility is that you do not respect her anymore for whatever reason. I've found that you can love someone, but not like or respect them very much.
When I was with my ex fiance, the same thing happened to me... didn't matter that he was very attractive, I would had no desire for him at all because of hidden anger toward him. A few guys that I've dated caused a similar situation.. if my respect toward them was lost, they were no longer attractive to me - I couldn't even bear to kiss them!
I'm just going off my experience, but unless she suddenly looks extremely different than she did when you fell in love with her, I'd say you should figure out what the underlying issue is... because even if you're bored with someone sexually, they still shouldn't make you cringe unless there's something else going on underneath it all.
Are you resentful toward her about something? You might not even know it... resentment builds up over a period of time and have be very latent/insidious. Could have resulted from a bunch of little things over time, or something bigger that you're having a hard time letting go of. Another possibility is that you do not respect her anymore for whatever reason. I've found that you can love someone, but not like or respect them very much.
When I was with my ex fiance, the same thing happened to me... didn't matter that he was very attractive, I would had no desire for him at all because of hidden anger toward him. A few guys that I've dated caused a similar situation.. if my respect toward them was lost, they were no longer attractive to me - I couldn't even bear to kiss them!
I'm just going off my experience, but unless she suddenly looks extremely different than she did when you fell in love with her, I'd say you should figure out what the underlying issue is... because even if you're bored with someone sexually, they still shouldn't make you cringe unless there's something else going on underneath it all.
Do you have desire for say other women like say do you want porn or something & still get turned on then just not with your wife? Marriage & routines can take their effect even if your wife hasnt put on weight or anything else like that.
well, is your ladie gaining weight? Doing the same moves?have you tryed suggesting things or other random places were you guys can have sex? ask yourself a lot of these questions and figure out what she has to do to turn you on man,
After our first child was born, my ex-wife's sex drive plummeted. For years, she would do almost anything to avoid sex with me but would finally give in when I was out of patience. Finally, I began losing interest after this long routine. She divorced me for other reasons besides sex, mainly money. Now I hear she blames me for the sex problems, too. I strongly suggest you get help before it gets much worse.
What happened to cause this? Clearly there's some route problem that's making you feel this way. Figuring that out is the start to fixing it. I suggest you try seeing a therapist to work on your intimacy issues.