Asked by mystery22 on
why do i feel the need to be around him...and should i still hang out with him?
right now im in a long distance relationship and my boyriend and i hardly see each other..but my ex lives right around the corner...this is the same ex that i was madly in love with and then broke my heart...but everytime he comes back for a break from college i end up at his house either watching a movie or playing video games; like we're the bestest friends, then we end up having sex...yess i still love my ex...but im not in love with him...i like his company and im used to his company, and it's vice versa...it's like i dnt want him to be completly out my life...can i still hang out with him and not have sex?
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You are being very unfair to your long distance boyfriend. You need to break up with him first and foremost. Just because he's away doesn't mean it's okay to cheat on him with your ex. Clearly the LDR is not working for you so let him know that. Regarding your ex, you say yourself that you aren't in love with him but basically he's a convenient relationship. So basically, you are using him for sex. In your case I would say, no you cannot just be friends with your ex. You've already proven that to yourself by sleeping with him. You need to start being honest with yourself. Do you actually want to have a relationship with your ex (meaning dating because there's no way the two of you will 'just be friends' at this point). If the answer is no, you need to cut him off and stop hanging around him. Try to be a better person and move on. If the answer is yes, be honest with him about how you feel and what you want out of the relationship. If he does not want a relationship cut him out and stop seeing him. Period. Otherwise you are just going to continue the pattern of friends with benefits and let's face reality here, this is not healthy for you. No matter how much denial you are in, the FWB situation is going to backfire on you both.