Asked by dclaycooper on
If we care so much for one another why are we always at "odds"?
It seems like we are always dealing with emotional upset in our relationship behind something that has been said or done or not said or done. I feel like the only time that I please him is when we are having sex. He says he doesn't want to give up on us and neither do I. I often feel like this relationship is emotionally draining and is a lot of work. I don't understand why or what to do about it. I don't want to lose him and at the same time I always feel like I am on eggshells when we are together abd I don't want that either.
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A relattionship means trust...and having to compromise....it's ok to agree to disagree....you're not giving in....just compromising to keep the lines of communication open.....understand...when you're being intimate....there's not much conversation needed....just every now & then words......try to start spending time doing something you like one time...then something he likes......something that involves....some eye contact...conversation....& laughter...then if sex follows....ok....but watch how different it will be because you took a chance & opened the line of communication..
as an individual i personaly believe that a relationship is based from freindship. this means that even though the best of freinds have spats, they have alot of fun. my current relationship is with a good freind. i told her that id like to go on a date... she of coures was hesitant because she didnt want to put our freind ship on the line. but we are always happy when we are with each other. and so far its by far the greatest realationship based off true freindship. it took me long enough to follow my own advise, and (knock on wood) its going great so far.
i guess what im saying is that you shouldnt break up right away, but try taking a walk in the park and see if you can realy have fun as just people. as much as i hate being lumped in with the general public... im still human, and so are you. good luck.
A relationship can't be based on sex alone. Meaning there has to be happier moments besides the sex. If you both want to work it out, which you say you do, you need to start going to couples counseling. If you are both committed to making it work, you will be able to but you need see a counselor in order to do that.