Asked by dizzysewing on
why does he prefer to sleep on couch then in bed with me
For over a year now he sleeps on couch, my dad passed away and he says I changed, he lost his job a little over year ago. Sex well I have to wait for him to be in mood and thats not very often maybe every 9 weeks he does take antidepressant and he blames it on that but did not have this problem before. he does not tell me he loves me in fact no emotion no touching and most of all I opened a retail store for me a job and wanted him to be involed but he wants nothing to do with it but me to support him... what the heck.
I work 16 hour days he plays video games.. he wont even look for job.. help what do i do.
oh yes he smokes and drinks and gets upset with me for we dont have those things for there is no extra money. I cut everything out that I could.
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You have to face the situation. It is not working out. I would say to start by having a serious talk with him. Open up to him about what you expect and what you need from the relationship. Give him an opportunity to express himself to you and tell you what's bothering him and why it seems like he's given up. If he unresponsive to your discussion and unwilling to change, if he shows no signs of caring or interest in the relationship or your happiness, it is time to move on. Bottom line. The reality of the situation is that nothing will change just because you want it to and are willing to work on the problem. He has to be willing to work at it too (honestly it doesn't sound like he is). If not, the relationship isn't going to survive and it's going to come to a breaking point where you are going to have to ask yourself 'How much of it can you actually take? What drastic thing has to happen before you really can't take it anymore? How bad does it have to get before you just can't ignore it anymore?' You don't have to live like this and you will be able to find someone else who cares enough about you to support your goals and actually want you to be happy.